Sir Patrick Stewart, 80, says he still has therapy to deal with childhood domestic violence
Sir Patrick Stewart is still in therapy to help him cope with the domestic violence he witnessed as a child.
The Star Trek legend, 80, said he was still affected by his father’s violence against his mother when he was growing up – and admits he has a lot of internal anger that he suppressed during his lifetime.
Speaking to Telegraph, the star said, “I’m 80 years old and still in therapy. I see someone every week here in Los Angeles, who I’ve been dating for almost 20 years.
Brave: Sir Patrick Stewart still has therapy to help him come to terms with the domestic violence he witnessed as a child
“I am always looking for myself, I always ask myself questions, and I certainly do when I try to remember how I felt in the midst of the violence, and that there is nothing I can do. “
The veteran actor grew up convinced he had the same rage inside him that his father had that he fought to keep hidden – admitting he thought he had already killed his manager when he was falsely punished in adolescence.
Patrick recounted how he was beaten with a cane by his teacher at the age of 14 when he was completely innocent, adding that if he had fought back he doubted his manager “would have made it”.
The repercussions of his violent upbringing restricted the star’s ability to show his emotions, with Patrick revealing that he would “fake” extreme anger and fury during acting work due to fear of what would happen. he let his feelings express themselves.
Open and honest: The Star Trek legend, 80, said he was still affected by his father’s violence against his mother when he was growing up (above with his mother Gladys)
The X-Men star has said he’s still worried about losing his temper with his children he had with his first wife Sheila Falconer.
He said: “I remember my son, who ended up being a lot taller than me, coming face to face with me, arguing about something. I had to delete it all [anger]. So yes, it was there, it is still there.
In 2018, Patrick revealed that his father made his first appearance in his life after serving in the war and that he would “direct all abuse to his poor wife” but “none to his children” – leaving him “ashamed” to seek help for the family problem.
Speaking candidly to the Loose Women panel, Patrick revealed, “My brother and I lived with my mom and sister across the road, we were treated so well.
“Suddenly there was this big, hairy man in the house. More and more, things got more and more difficult.
Getting Help: Speaking to The Telegraph, the star said, “I’m 80 years old and still in therapy. I see someone every week here in Los Angeles, who I’ve seen intermittently since. almost 20 years
“What I learned only a few years ago was that he had suffered what the newspapers described as severe shell shock. Of course, he was never treated for it – what we now call PTSD.
Sir Patrick went on to describe his humble home in Yorkshire being torn apart: “He was an alcoholic on weekends and that was in part due to his transformation from a regimental sergeant major to a semi-skilled worker without any authority. .
“From Monday to Friday, he devoted himself to his work, he earned a modest income. On Friday nights, he bathed in front of the fire, dressed and drank most of the weekend.
On-screen icon: The X-Men star said he’s still worried about losing his temper with his children he had with his first wife Sheila Falconer (above in Star Trek)
“He was coming home from the pub or the workers’ club. You could hear him sing. He loved to sing. The kind of songs he sang would give us advance warning of the mood he was in.
He further detailed the ice age of his life: “A lot of times it was bad. He would initiate arguments and then those arguments would advance to something more extreme – violence.
Patrick confessed that the abuse directed at his mother had taken its toll: “We [he and his brother] became experts at something kids should never, ever have to deal with, which is to listen to the argument and judge when the argument turns into violence.
“At these times we would come in, we would just try to put our bodies between our mother and our father,” he remembers heartily.
Admitting that he had not asked for help, he said: “Not at that time, no. One of the problems with domestic violence is the shame that comes with it – for everyone, for the victim, the perpetrator and the children too. ‘
Sir Patrick continued: “He never abused his children. It was all directed at my poor mum. If it could have been done, yes [we would have taken the blows]. Standing between them would stop him, he [his father] would take a step back.
Patrick has previously stated that he uses comedy to escape terror at home.
The X-Men star gives her English teacher Cecil Dormand credit for starting his career by putting on a play at the age of 12.
If you are a victim of domestic violence, call the 24-hour National Domestic Violence Hotline on 0808 2000 247 or visit womanstrust.org.uk, womensaid.org.uk or refuge.org.uk.
Icon: Patrick has previously said he uses the game to escape terror at home (pictured from Star Trek Insurrection)